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Ai avut vreodat\u0103 o zi \u00een care ai f\u0103cut lucruri aproape f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti? Ai deschis telefonul \u201edoar pentru c\u00e2teva minute\u201d \u0219i ai ajuns s\u0103 stai o or\u0103 pe re\u021belele sociale? Ai spus ceva la nervi \u0219i apoi \u021bi-ai p\u0103rut r\u0103u? Ai f\u0103cut ceva doar pentru c\u0103 to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi f\u0103ceau acela\u0219i lucru? Ni se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 tuturor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De multe ori, tr\u0103im pe \u201epilot automat\u201d. Reac\u021bion\u0103m, r\u0103spundem, alegem \u0219i mergem mai departe f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ne oprim s\u0103 ne \u00eentreb\u0103m: \u201eDe ce fac asta?\u201d<\/strong>, \u201eCe simt acum?\u201d<\/strong> sau \u201eEste cu adev\u0103rat alegerea mea?\u201d<\/strong> Aici \u00eencepe starea de con\u0219tien\u021b\u0103, c\u00e2nd \u00eencepi s\u0103 te \u00eentrebi \u00eenainte s\u0103 ac\u021bionezi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A fi con\u0219tient nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 fii serios tot timpul, s\u0103 nu gre\u0219e\u0219ti sau s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi analizezi fiecare gest. \u00censeamn\u0103, pur \u0219i simplu, s\u0103 fii atent la tine \u0219i la ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een jurul t\u0103u<\/strong>. S\u0103 observi c\u0103 e\u0219ti nervos \u00eenainte s\u0103 reac\u021bionezi. S\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dai seama c\u0103 e\u0219ti trist, chiar dac\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103 pari indiferent. S\u0103 observi c\u0103 te compari cu cineva de pe internet \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 ceea ce vezi acolo nu reprezint\u0103 \u00eentreaga lui via\u021b\u0103. S\u0103 po\u021bi spune \u201enu\u201d atunci c\u00e2nd ceva nu \u021bi se potrive\u0219te, chiar dac\u0103 ceilal\u021bi spun \u201eda\u201d. \u0218i, poate cel mai important, s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 faci diferen\u021ba dintre ce vrei tu<\/strong> \u0219i ce sim\u021bi c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 vrei pentru a fi acceptat<\/strong>. Emo\u021biile nu sunt du\u0219manii t\u0103i<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen adolescen\u021b\u0103, emo\u021biile pot fi foarte puternice. Uneori po\u021bi trece rapid de la entuziasm la furie, de la \u00eencredere la \u00eendoial\u0103 sau de la bucurie la triste\u021be. Asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 este ceva \u00een neregul\u0103 cu tine. Emo\u021biile sunt mesaje. Ele \u00ee\u021bi spun ceva despre ceea ce tr\u0103ie\u0219ti, despre ceea ce \u00ee\u021bi place, despre ceea ce te r\u0103ne\u0219te sau despre ceea ce ai nevoie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Con\u0219tien\u021ba \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 nu te la\u0219i condus imediat de fiecare emo\u021bie. De exemplu, po\u021bi fi foarte furios \u0219i totu\u0219i s\u0103 alegi s\u0103 nu trimi\u021bi acel mesaj pe care \u00eel vei regreta peste zece minute. Po\u021bi fi gelos \u0219i s\u0103 te \u00eentrebi de unde vine gelozia. Po\u021bi fi dezam\u0103git \u0219i s\u0103 accep\u021bi c\u0103 ai dreptul s\u0103 fii a\u0219a, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te consideri slab.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00centre ce sim\u021bi<\/strong> \u0219i ce faci<\/strong> exist\u0103 un mic spa\u021biu. \u00cen acel spa\u021biu se afl\u0103 alegerea ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poate c\u0103 una dintre cele mai mari provoc\u0103ri pentru adolescen\u021bii de ast\u0103zi este faptul c\u0103 au permanent acces la vie\u021bile altora. Vezi oameni care par mai frumo\u0219i, mai populari, mai ferici\u021bi, mai talenta\u021bi sau mai \u00eemplini\u021bi. \u0218i, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dai seama, \u00eencepi s\u0103 te \u00eentrebi:\u201eDe ce eu nu sunt a\u0219a?\u201d Dar trebuie s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi aminte\u0219ti ceva important: tu compari via\u021ba ta real\u0103 cu o selec\u021bie din via\u021ba altcuiva.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

O fotografie nu \u00ee\u021bi arat\u0103 nesiguran\u021bele acelei persoane. Un videoclip nu \u00ee\u021bi arat\u0103 toate zilele proaste. Un num\u0103r mare de urm\u0103ritori nu \u00ee\u021bi spune dac\u0103 acel om se simte cu adev\u0103rat bine. S\u0103 fii con\u0219tient \u00eenseamn\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 po\u021bi spune: \u201eCeea ce v\u0103d nu este \u00eentreaga realitate.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poate p\u0103rea ciudat, dar cu c\u00e2t devii mai atent la tine, cu at\u00e2t devii mai liber. Dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi observi g\u00e2ndurile, ele pot ajunge s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi conduc\u0103 alegerile. Dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi \u00een\u021belegi emo\u021biile, ele pot decide \u00een locul t\u0103u. Dac\u0103 ai nevoie permanent\u0103 de aprobarea celorlal\u021bi, ri\u0219ti s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti via\u021ba pe care o a\u0219teapt\u0103 al\u021bii de la tine. Dar atunci c\u00e2nd \u00eencepi s\u0103 te observi, apare posibilitatea de a alege. Po\u021bi spune:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eSunt nervos, dar nu vreau s\u0103 r\u0103nesc pe nimeni.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eMi-e team\u0103, dar vreau s\u0103 \u00eencerc.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eTo\u021bi ceilal\u021bi fac asta, dar eu nu m\u0103 simt bine cu alegerea asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eAm gre\u0219it. Nu \u00eemi place ce am f\u0103cut, dar pot \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba din asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acestea nu sunt semne de sl\u0103biciune. Sunt semne c\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 te maturizezi. Nu trebuie s\u0103 ai toate r\u0103spunsuril. Poate una dintre cele mai mari presiuni ale adolescen\u021bei este ideea c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tii deja cine e\u0219ti, ce vrei s\u0103 faci \u00een via\u021b\u0103, ce carier\u0103 vei avea \u0219i ce fel de persoan\u0103 vei deveni. Nu este nevoie s\u0103 ai toate r\u0103spunsurile. E\u0219ti \u00eenc\u0103 \u00een proces de descoperire. Uneori vei alege bine. Alteori vei gre\u0219i. Vei schimba opinii, prietenii, pasiuni \u0219i poate chiar visuri. \u0218i este \u00een regul\u0103. Con\u0219tien\u021ba nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 ai o via\u021b\u0103 perfect\u0103. \u00censeamn\u0103 s\u0103 po\u021bi privi ceea ce tr\u0103ie\u0219ti \u0219i s\u0103 spui: \u201eVreau s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg ce mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 aleg c\u00e2t pot de bine pentru mine.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un exerci\u021biu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Data viitoare c\u00e2nd sim\u021bi c\u0103 e\u0219ti foarte nervos, trist, speriat sau presat s\u0103 faci ceva, opre\u0219te-te pentru c\u00e2teva secunde \u0219i \u00eentreab\u0103-te:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce simt?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

De ce simt asta?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce am nevoie acum?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 a\u0219 avea pu\u021bin timp s\u0103 m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc, ce alegere a\u0219 face?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu trebuie s\u0103 g\u0103se\u0219ti imediat r\u0103spunsul perfect. Important este c\u0103 te-ai oprit. Ai ie\u0219it pentru c\u00e2teva clipe de pe \u201epilot automat\u201d. \u0218i poate c\u0103 exact \u00een acele c\u00e2teva secunde \u00eencepe o schimbare important\u0103: aceea \u00een care nu mai reac\u021bionezi doar la ceea ce \u021bi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, ci \u00eencepi s\u0103 alegi cum vrei s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Starea de con\u0219tien\u021b\u0103 nu este ceva spectaculos. Poate \u00eencepe cu lucruri foarte mici:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi ascul\u021bi emo\u021biile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi observi g\u00e2ndurile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 nu faci ceva doar pentru c\u0103 ceilal\u021bi o fac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 accep\u021bi c\u0103 po\u021bi gre\u0219i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi pui \u00eentreb\u0103ri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 fii sincer cu tine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103, de\u0219i nu po\u021bi controla tot ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een jurul t\u0103u, po\u021bi \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba s\u0103 ai tot mai mult\u0103 grij\u0103 de felul \u00een care alegi s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi.<\/strong> Via\u021ba ta nu trebuie s\u0103 fie perfect\u0103 pentru a avea valoare. Trebuie doar s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 fii prezent \u00een ea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd devii con\u0219tient de tine, \u00eencepi s\u0103 descoperi nu doar cine e\u0219ti, ci \u0219i cine po\u021bi deveni.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ai avut vreodat\u0103 o zi \u00een care ai f\u0103cut lucruri aproape f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti? Ai deschis telefonul \u201edoar pentru c\u00e2teva minute\u201d \u0219i ai ajuns s\u0103 stai o or\u0103 pe re\u021belele sociale? Ai spus ceva la nervi \u0219i apoi \u021bi-ai p\u0103rut r\u0103u? Ai f\u0103cut ceva doar pentru c\u0103 to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi f\u0103ceau acela\u0219i lucru? Ni se […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[20,19],"class_list":["post-163","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-emotii","tag-stare-de-constienta"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/163","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=163"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/163\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167,"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/163\/revisions\/167"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=163"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=163"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/liv4life.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=163"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}